Social Anxiety Forums

Nikki · Anonymous

ever since 6th grade i've had severe social anxiety. in 4 years i made a total of 2 friends. because im so afraid. i dont talk, i'm always socially isolated. my armpits used to sweat all down my sides making hugee sweat marks throughout the day (i use prescription deoderant now drysol), when im walking or something it makes me really tense because of all the people around me, in class i try to avoid people to look at me.

i try speaking up and try multiple times but the words can just never come out. i cant even count the number of times i just wanted to ask the girl or guy next to me a question a simple question like "whens our test again?" but the words just cant come out i feel a tightened feeling throughout my body&get hot flashes when i try.

when i try talking usually the words come out all screwed up i get so nervous and i have to start over with what i'm trying to say, it makes me even more anxious because i look like an idiot when that happens.

i never thought it was social anxiety because the only cases i hears about it were wayyyy extreme.

i just want to make a couple friends, that's all i ever wanted. i'm always unheard and not understood. people think i'm a stuck up ***** because i dont talk, but i really truly want to. i want to be included for oncee not stuck all alone in the corner by myself being the shy girl who never says a word. the one time i said something in my science lab group someone even commented "whoa, you talk?"

i JUST told my psychologist about my social problems so she set me up an appointment with a psychiatrist wednesday. which means i'm going on meds. do the meds actually help? is there any hope for me, ever?

Sugar · Anonymous

I have social anxiety as well. I've never had the guts to go to the doctor & seek help. I'm really sorry you are like this but i wanted you to know that i sympathise with you & i understand what your going thru. You must always believe there's hope. Don't quit school no matter how hard it gets because you will regret it. The more you isolate yourself the harder it is to overcome this. Believe me!

Believe · Anonymous

Extreme shyness! You have to become more confident by convincing yourself that you're not the you you were in sixth grade anymore. Reinvent yourself in high school. Be strong, confident, energetic, etc. And always remember that you're going to be okay.

Im · Anonymous

Yes there is hope, there is always hope. I myself have a had problems with anxiety....different sorts too... meds can help you relax...until you can learn the skills to relax in social situations.

Winslow · Anonymous

I have a niece who is 16 and has social anxiety. She is on an anti-depressant and I have to say it has done wonders. I can see the difference and so can her mom. I hope your visit to the psychiatrist helps you in some way. It is terrible to have to go thru life so uncomfortable. Best wishes for some answers!
ps. There is HOPE!!!

Mamabear · Anonymous

Mine started in kindergarten--I wanted to play in the dollhouse, and nothing to do with the other kids or the teacher's instructions.
Part of me wanted friends--and the other part of me wanted to do what I wanted to do--with or without anyone else.

Even now after being married with children, I rarely even speak to neighbors. I hate jobs with co-workers--would rather work on my own. I don't hate people--I just get very flustered by crowds, and by judgmental people.

I now take antidepressants and panic attack meds. They help with certain things--but I still can't speak in public without stuttering or going blank. Guess that's why I do most of my communicating in writing.

Whether or not your meds will work depends on how much you are willing to help them work. You are best off being in therapy with the meds, and doing the things that your counselor tells you--as far as helping yourself go.

I wish you success, and have confidence that you will come out of this soon.