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Suffering
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 Posted: Sun April 22, 2007 Post subject: ::Newbie:: My Story Please Give Me Feedback. |
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hello lets just say my name is dee. 
as of 2004/2005 - present i believe i've been dealing with social anxiety i've never went to a doctor or mentioned it to anyone not even a family member but back in 2004 i notice something strange i started sweating vigorously and rubbing my hands together everytime i would talk to someone i mean it was really bad and at the time my excuse was im sweating cause im overweight(which back then i was and it helped alot ).
Before 2004 i was able to go to the mall hell i couldnt wait to get to the mall to shop and be around girls but now its like i get scared even when im with one of my friends what i do is start sweating,playing with my phone while we walk thru the mall,act like im textin someone when im not, and when i talk while walking thru the mall it sounds really low like im talkin to my self but my friend still hears me and i dont think they notice anything wrong because in my head i believe i carry it well.
my whole thing about this is i have no clue where it came from and im goin to share a few personal moments in my life to see if anyone can tell if i have a phobia or is all in my head.
1. 2004 i worked at Kroger as a cashier so i was around ppl most of the day whether customers or co workers and had no problem talkin to them BUT i did still sweat excessively.
2. between 2004-mid 2006 i was goin thru hell with my mother and her husband it was sorta kinda abusive but VERBALLY more than physical and i witnessed alot of it but i would never speak to anyone about it i would just hold whatever thoughts i had to myself and eventually try to get rid of it by using music which helped alot we had an altercation in 2006 when i seen him for the very first n last time hit my mother and i beat the hell of out him so as of 2006 they are separated.
this phobia is weird because i now work for a ups hub which has over 200+ at night working and i dont sweat or have a panic attack im normal but if i go to a real big event such as a school play/performance or mall i start to catch an attack start sweating,playing with my phone, even turnin my head away from ppl i would just look str8 ahead or str8 down but on interviews i have no problem with eye contact.
if it is a phobia of some sort i wanna know what stage i am because i've worked at nothin but big public places such as kroger,home depot,ups,big lots,papa johns,dominos.
CAN SOMEONE EXPLAIN TO ME IF ITS ALL IN MY HEAD OR I MAY HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY IN CERTAIN PLACES? |
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iPlume
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Location: England, UK
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| Posted: Sun April 22, 2007 Post subject: Re: ::Newbie:: My Story Please Give Me Feedback. |
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| Suffering wrote: | hello lets just say my name is dee.
as of 2004/2005 - present i believe i've been dealing with social anxiety i've never went to a doctor or mentioned it to anyone not even a family member but back in 2004 i notice something strange i started sweating vigorously and rubbing my hands together everytime i would talk to someone i mean it was really bad and at the time my excuse was im sweating cause im overweight(which back then i was and it helped alot ).
Before 2004 i was able to go to the mall hell i couldnt wait to get to the mall to shop and be around girls but now its like i get scared even when im with one of my friends what i do is start sweating,playing with my phone while we walk thru the mall,act like im textin someone when im not, and when i talk while walking thru the mall it sounds really low like im talkin to my self but my friend still hears me and i dont think they notice anything wrong because in my head i believe i carry it well.
my whole thing about this is i have no clue where it came from and im goin to share a few personal moments in my life to see if anyone can tell if i have a phobia or is all in my head.
1. 2004 i worked at Kroger as a cashier so i was around ppl most of the day whether customers or co workers and had no problem talkin to them BUT i did still sweat excessively.
2. between 2004-mid 2006 i was goin thru hell with my mother and her husband it was sorta kinda abusive but VERBALLY more than physical and i witnessed alot of it but i would never speak to anyone about it i would just hold whatever thoughts i had to myself and eventually try to get rid of it by using music which helped alot we had an altercation in 2006 when i seen him for the very first n last time hit my mother and i beat the hell of out him so as of 2006 they are separated.
this phobia is weird because i now work for a ups hub which has over 200+ at night working and i dont sweat or have a panic attack im normal but if i go to a real big event such as a school play/performance or mall i start to catch an attack start sweating,playing with my phone, even turnin my head away from ppl i would just look str8 ahead or str8 down but on interviews i have no problem with eye contact.
if it is a phobia of some sort i wanna know what stage i am because i've worked at nothin but big public places such as kroger,home depot,ups,big lots,papa johns,dominos.
CAN SOMEONE EXPLAIN TO ME IF ITS ALL IN MY HEAD OR I MAY HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY IN CERTAIN PLACES? |
it does sound like you have social anxiety but at what stage i cannot tell you, thats upto you to see someone to help you out with. it sounds like your story is similar to mine, i've worked in big places, call centers, cashiers, caring, etc and as a child my dad was very abusive towrads my mum, my sister and myself, sometimes hitting out at us but mostly verbal.
however i never had a problem up until i got out of a very abusive relationship where all the abusive was verbal and always putting me down but that wasent what i'd say triggered how i got into this state, i would say it was when i worked for a very large company and was given the push because they mad up a story that i was giving people the wrong information out and this really got to me and it still does.
i guess what i'm saying is that, like me you've been put down so much that when in crowded areas you get nervous and upset because it trigged that throught process in your head that you've done something wrong, when in fact you havent. what you need to do is keep telling yourself that your strong and that you arent a bad person, person around you dont think badly of you and just give yourself a mental hug when things get you uptight. |
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DS
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An unhealthy lifestyle will cause more discomfort.
Deal with that first, then see what problems remain. |
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