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Were you ever bullied when you were younger? If yes, do you think this may have started your SA?

I was bullied when I was in primary school (in year 6). I am not sure if it had any long term effects on me but it might have. Since then I've always been looking for ways to improve my confidence.
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iPlume · Posted: Tue March 27, 2007 Post subject:

yes i was bullied as a kid and my dad was abusive towards my mum as well. i believe that the abuse from my dad has def been a factor as to why i have SAD as my panic attacks mainly happen when i'm around very noisy areas [ie: the shouting and hitting i heard as a kid triggered a nervous part inside of me]

also in high school i was greatly bullied, beated up daily by huge crowds of kids to such an extent that i self harmed, drank and taken out of school early by my mum who denyed the fact that when i told her i hated school and was being picked on she'd shrug it off telling me that i was making up stories.

the fact that i now have problems with noisy and crowded areas def says that my anxiety is trigged by what i have gone though in my life. now its just trying to find a way to cope and re-adjust myself to life i guess.

Josh · Posted: Tue March 27, 2007 Post subject:

Sorry to hear what happened to you iPlume.

I'm guessing there are many others whose anxiety has been caused by bullying or abuse.

mik07 · Terrified Newbie Joined: 16 Apr 2007 Posts: 4

Yes, I've been bullied and I felt so bad, deprived, and even angry.

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para · Posted: Mon April 16, 2007 Post subject:

Yes, I was bullied at a high level, mostly verbaly but in many cases physicaly. And that led to my isolation, wich in that term led to my social phobia and pannick attacks. Otherwise I was very social as a child... maybe shy in some cases towards girls but otherwise relatively talkactive, and for some reason kids in school didnt like me, but that must be because my family was always moving from place to place... it is not so easy make friends in that scenario. Rolling Eyes

Today, I have no friends, no girlfriend, no nothing... aaahh... the future looks bright don't it? Smile

brianq · Posted: Fri April 20, 2007 Post subject:

Yes. Bullied as a kid. Would not be surprised if it lead to feelings of inadequacy and a deep feeling of being unlikeable, which causes social phobia as an adult (at least my social phobia).

Oy! Life can be tough sometimes! May victory from social phobia be right around the corner for us!

Josh · Posted: Fri April 20, 2007 Post subject:

I like your optimistic attitude brian. It sure seems to be a very long corner though.

Ben41 · Launch Team Joined: 20 Apr 2007 Posts: 24 Location: Canada

i wasnt really bullied, but i was always left out.
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Josh · Posted: Fri April 20, 2007 Post subject:

That can be just as bad. In fact I experienced both when I was in primary school.

After that I went to a selective highschool and it wasn't as bad since everyone there was a nerd. But even still I kind of kept to myself.

brianq · Posted: Sat April 21, 2007 Post subject:

the longer the battle, the sweeter the victory! don't give up.

Josh · Posted: Sat April 21, 2007 Post subject:

MyGoal · Anxious Poster Joined: 28 Apr 2007 Posts: 28

I would probably call it being teased. One of my siblings teased me constantly and it was pretty demoralising as he just wanted to tear down anything good about me. It would be water off a ducks back to another person, or they'd give it back, fight even but that's not me I took it onboard and believed I was as flawed as he said I was, despite the love my parents and others gave me. So I think all kinds of comments became like bullying and the anticipation of being teased created much anxiety. But if I was to think of any school teasing it was directly about my shyness and things I would do related to hiding from attention. So it got worse, the more teasing the more need to be shy and so on. It was my weakness I suppose, and kids will make the most of any weakeness to hone in on. I was successful in many other things, school work and sports, arts. I was just born shy and it was taken advantage of cos they couldn't get me in any other way or activity. I'd never do that to another person, I could never figure out why they never had a conscience or remorse about being nasty like that. Any time I've been nasty to someone it has been when I am deeply hurt and pained and reacted out of that pain, and I immediately feel remorse and apologise as soon as I can.

go_dumb · Terrified Newbie Joined: 02 Jun 2007 Posts: 9

i was never bullied but i this is hindering me from so much things in life..i cant enjoy my life ...and school isnt goin any good

bobby12 · Terrified Newbie Joined: 03 Sep 2007 Posts: 1

i dont know what im going through. i have plenty of friends and i know that but sometimes when im around certain friends i feel like they are agaisnt me and trying to bring me down. one friend in perticular gives me the most of these feelings if not all of them. its hard to explain but i hope someone will understand. for example. im hanging out with this friend, we will call him jon, jon has a huge ego and is spoiled as can be. first of all hes obviously gotten into my head and the things he does are on my mind alot of the day. if we were with a few other friends jon is fine and does not bother me most of the time besides being the usuall asshole he is. but say those other friends left the room for a few mins. jon would stare me in the eye cock his head and scream right at me as loud as he could. not any words just a loud scream. i would sometimes laugh and try to imagine hes joking around but when i laugh he does not laugh with me. he continues to stare and smirk at me. i dont know why this bothers me so much. but it does. after he does this things become very akward, im confused and ready to punch him in the eye but he continues to stare at me like i have a messed up face or something. i become very very self concious and avoid eye contact even though he constanly stares at me. i have always been good friends with jon but for the past year hes become a totaly different person. sometimes i feel like the jon that screams and stares is more of a demon child than anything else. i think jon knows this bothers me and thats why he does it. it must make him feel superior in some way. i want to be friends with jon we hangout everyday but he has really had me question my sanity some days. its depressing knowing that he is the cause of alot of my low self esteem. maybe i should stop hanging around him or maybe i should tell him how i feel(although i feel that would make him feel more powerful to know it bugs me this much). i hate this its like a broken record playing through my head i can see him screaming and smirking but i cant bring myself to just ignore it. its almost impossible. i dont know why anyone would put someone down as a way to bring themselfs up. i know im a very strong person and can overcome this but i dont have the slightest clue on how to rid these thoughts from my mind.

DS · Calm Regular Joined: 27 Apr 2007 Posts: 50

YES

Highly nervous personality passed down from family + Constant bullying K-12 = SA